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What the Heck is the Difference between a Twin-Flame and a Soul-Mate?
Since so many of us are desiring vibrant relationships. I’ll just put this here to start us off in the wishing department. It’s my take on Relationships: Soulmates, Twin Flames, Life-Mates, Healing agreements and how Past Life Reflections can cause confusion.
Soul-mates: You will have many soul-mates in a life-time. It’s when you have that instant connection with someone. They just “get” you. You have a conversation and it’s exquisitely fluid. It’s such a relief to be in the company of a soulmate or kindred spirit. It’s like coming home. You are from the same soul family, the same distant star. You don’t have to teach someone your language, your culture. You just flow together. You share the same thoughts, laugh at the same shit and communicate telepathically with your eyes and presence. You feel “seen” and “see” them. Sometimes this is a romantic connection, sometimes this is your best friend, your work partner, or a family member. (“Romantic” means you sink down into the sensuality of your second chakra with them. If you are soul-mates that doesn’t necessarily mean you’re life-mates.)
Life-mate: People who find a beautiful life rhythm. They support each other in this complex world. Sometimes you meet a couple that is in sync on that everyday level. They plan well and do life together as a wonderful team. If you are ONLY life-mates and not soul-mates too, you will still need a soul-mate somewhere in your life to feel fulfilled. You and your life-mate might have great sex and be loving and efficient. However, if you are spiritually developed, you will still feel drawn to have a soul-mate by your side. If this soul-mate of yours is your best friend, your life-partner will have to make room for that connection. And usually life-mates are really good at that. Because the lifestyle part matches up so well. If you have a soul-mate and life-mate in the same person then you are L.U.C.K.Y.! This is basically what most people REALLY want.
Twin Flames: You have only one twin-flame. As you came out of the primordial goo and embodied onto the earth, your soul split into two expressions; one Yin (feminine) and Yang (masculine). (This does not mean you are not whole!)
Pretend that you were being efficient:
‘I know! I’ll clone myself and get twice the work done!”
This is like splitting up the work. Your twin-flame experiences lessons through reincarnation as do you. In the beginning you are usually not on the earth at the same time unless you are on a special mission. (One will come down to earth to lesson and experience things, while the other coaches and supports from the astral plane.) On the other hand, soul-mates are like teammates. To keep the momentum going you are on the earth at the same time. Twin-flames incarnate together towards their last couple lifetimes to begin integrating, healing, creating and bringing wholeness to the world. Twin-flames are mission oriented. You have learned many things separately, now you show each other what you have learned individually. Your twin-soul sees exactly the opposite view as you through either the Yin or Yang expression.
Your twin-flame is a giant pain in your ass!
You recognize each other but have totally different skill sets and views on things. You will feel drawn to each other through a profound recognition and synergy. There will be mind blowing sexual chemistry. It is rarely easy to navigate as a team.
Like: “Hey there hot stuff! Let’s make out.”
Then: “Oh jeeze, wait a second, you are fucking freaking me out”.
Twin flames usually have strange stories of falling into each others lives or meeting to test the waters. ‘Are we fully ready to come back together?’ There can be a “chaser” and a “runner”. Usually the feminine twin is the “chaser”, the “masculine” is traditionally the runner. Both must be ready, spiritually evolved enough, healed enough; to begin the integration process. Neither are meant to lose their identity in the process of integration. It’s more like connecting your smartphone to recharge, download and update. They are meant to rest together and learn from each other. Then do the humanitarian work of healing the planet.
Soulmates have all the fun, they get to just “watch Netflix and chill”. So don’t be sad if your twin flame is off planet for this round. We need a t-shirt that says, “Soul-Mates have ALL the fun!”
Watch this video on healing agreements and growth periods to understand what happens when your soulmate or twin flame is not ready for you or not healthy this life-time.
How Do Past-Life Stories Affect Your Present-Time Relationships?
People ask me, ‘what is my past-life with this person?’. If your past-lives have been AWESOME together, you might REALLY love this person…like instantly. Like everything in you says, ‘YES! I remember our wonderful family life, living on that farm and singing those songs and it was picturesque and fun. Let’s do it all again!’.
Personally, I find when I have a strong reaction (good or bad) to someone there is usually a past life story there.
When your past-lives have sucked badly with a soul-mate, then you might really dislike the person.
I remember being annoyed by a waiter in a restaurant that I frequented. I loathed being in his section and would often ask the hostess to seat me elsewhere. He was just waaaaayyyy too peppy for my taste. The more I resisted him, the more the universe would shove him in my face. He was always prying and asking me questions about my life. He would communicate friendly, but unwanted observations about me. He was so damn charming and quirky, I wanted to punch him in the face. For one year, I hated his guts and held a firm boundary of disgust. Then, one day I was able to see past all the frustration he stirred in me. And I remembered him fully. It was as if his true soul was being revealed to me. The moment I met him (in this life-time), I remembered him from another time and I felt frightened. His light cast a shadow and I got to see and feel parts of myself I had oppressed.
The day I saw past that, we became instant friends.
Because, I remembered he was not my oppressor. I remembered that he was in some bad shit WITH me a long-ass time ago. A whole other fucking life-time ago.
He laughed when I reminded him how much I hated his guts for an entire year. He would say, “I knew you would come around and remember me eventually. I recognized you the moment I saw you.” I did also, but I ran like a scared child. Under that anger was profound fear that my body remembered.
So, what was my past-life trauma with him? Together we performed rituals and entertained people together. It sounds fun, right? Well, in that lifetime I was forced to perform like a puppet. I was used for a skill and talent but was not free to be my own person. My gifts kept me indentured. In our current life-time, I discovered that this guy wasn’t a waiter. He was a performer, an actor, a musician, and a Cirque du Soleil clown. Present-time, I had so much fear around being “seen” because I might be controlled or used. He rejoiced in our ability to overcome obstacles. While I remembered the prison of that life-time. He was reminding me there was a way to beat the oppressors thru storytelling. We would perform for the ruler of the land, using satire and complex language to shame them. He saw that as a way to heal but my heart wasn’t in it. I wanted my private life and he wanted to teach the world a lesson. Eventually we were persecuted for our art. He went out like a rebel and I went out like a martyr.
He went on to coach me through it and taught me to play. I released the trauma.
The universe laid him in my path. So that I could overcome my fear of being seen. It was an opportunity for me to heal. He instantly brought out a fear that was so deep inside me I wanted to run away from him because of it. He seemed so forced and false. And forced and false was my experience in those lifetimes. It wasn’t who he was that scared me, it was what he mirrored to me. It’s like seeing your own sad reflection in the mirror someone else holds up for you and you want to run away from the person holding the mirror.